Disconfirmation is a communication pattern in which one ignores the other person’s presence and communication.
For example, Jack and Jane were good friends until a misunderstanding happened between them. Jane was furious and started giving Jack the cold shoulder . She ignored his presence and was indifferent to his messages. Whenever she walked past him, she would act like she did not notice him . Besides that, she also made no nonverbal contact. That is to say, even her body language did not acknowledge his presence. Next, she frequently jumped to interpret and evaluate messages. When Jane’s friend told her that a couple of boys from their class were caught playing truant, she immediately assumed Jack to be one of them.
After a while, when things between Jack and Jane started cooling down, Jane begin to talk to Jack again. Though so, things were not how it used to be. Jane who was always a listener and was empathetic , started being self-centered. She only talked about her self. She never asked Jack questions and most of the words which came out from her mouth consisted of “me” , “myself” and “I”. Not only that, she always interrupts Jack whenever he has something to say. That made it hard for Jack to express his opinions. Because of the way she acted, their relationship took a turn for the worse in the end.
-Carmen Lee- =)
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