Monday, October 19, 2009

The 101 on Resisting Pressure to Self-Disclose

There are many times when I ‘m with a bunch of girlfriends and one would start talking about her personal life. At times like this, it’s almost a cue in girl language to tell back a personal story to reciprocate the gesture. But I believe that a personal story should be kept personal. We could just keep quiet at times but there are some people who would do anything to get juicy stories of us. There are a few steps to prevent ourselves from spilling the beans which we will eventually regret.
1) Don’t be pushed:
Realize that we are in control of what and who to reveal to. If we are hesitant in revealing, do not reveal until we are sure we want to share our thoughts/ feelings with others.

2) Be indirect and move to other topic
Play dumb and avoid questions we are uncomfortable with. Try to change topics to hint the other party.

3) Be assertive in your refusal to disclose
If the other party is still oblivious to your hints, tell them that you’re not comfortable talking about those matters.


-Carmen Lee-

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